Well, as the female half of the 2 people who DJ in Calgary, I can say that I've had to put up with a lot of shit that my male counterpart doesn't get.
I've been yelled at, threatened, pushed out of the way so some random guy could browse through my cds to see what he was going to play next (Excuse me?!), and blamed for the lack of "newbies" (right).
But hey, I work in oil and gas and I'm one of the few women here too, so I've learned to deal. Of course, people now tell me that I'm "rude" when I kick them out of the DJ booth. I can deal with being rude if it keeps prying fingers from flipping through my cds to look for requests.
More generally, I think a DJ needs, above all, a drive to collect cds. I tend to see more guys than girls with that collection impulse - see how many guys v. girls who keep track of sports scores, have old cars that need lots of maintenance, research a new purchase to death, etc. It's that need to acquire, understand, catalogue. I see more women who're willing to grab that new top-10 cd, play it a bit, and then land it in the pile when the next new thing comes along. I know it sounds like I'm being disparaging, but that's only because we're all DJs in full possession of the "acquire" gene.
Without the drive to collect, we're just like all the regular dancers who know their favorite songs but not what album they're on, or even who plays 'em, and who have no drive to find out that info. It's not a value judgement - it's just a different lifestyle
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