My balance is usually pretty simple.
In my small scene, there are only a few people who seem to *really* enjoy and understand the music... most of the dancers are using it for a "metronome", as we have heard discussed before. That depresses me, of course, but the few that do listen know what good music is, and they love the music I generally play.
So I'm usually asked to "play a slower, groovy" song from time to time, and I'll do it. I'm also asked to play a westie song towards the end of the night... I'll do that too. Cuz I don't really mind, and people enjoy themselves. I'm lucky to be able to play a night of mostly (around 90%) of music *I* like, and it keeps people dancing. I can deal with that 10% that I just don't like.
And every night, I have someone coming up to me and asking "what was that song, that was great". That's always a plus, especially if it's a "good" song for me, and not one of the requests.
And of course, I don't really analyze all this while I'm DJing. I'm just playing music, and having fun. It's only when I get home, and answer forums such as this when I really think about what I've been doing
